“Yɛne wo sere kwa.”
It is not worth laughing with you. People laugh with you, but they do not mean you well.
Daddy Lumba sang it years ago as a love song. Today, in the painful aftermath of his own death, that one line has become a prophecy for his wife, Maame Akosua Serwaa Fosua.
When The Drums Fell Silent
When Daddy Lumba was alive, the house was full. Friends were laughing, eating, joking, posting pictures, calling themselves family. They surrounded Maame Akosua Serwaa, they ate from her kitchen, they danced with her at events. The love looked real. The friendship looked deep.
But death, as our elders say, reveals who truly loves you.
Since Daddy Lumba’s death, Maame Akosua Serwaa has been left in the middle of the sea — alone — to fight a storm she did not create.
The Shameful Attacks
What is most shameful is where the attacks are coming from.
Unreasonable religious persons — people who preach love on pulpits and on TikTok live — have insulted, ganged up on, ungodly mistreated and told blatant lies about Maame Akosua Serwaa Fosua.
Women who should know the pain of losing a husband have led defamatory, downgrading and unthinkable allegations against a widow who is still mourning. Friends who were once eating with her have turned into judges, lawyers, and executioners on social media.
This is not grief. This is cruelty.
The Fake Love Exposed
Daddy Lumba knew human nature too well. “Yɛne wo sere kwa” was not just about a lover — it was about life. Some people only laugh with you when you are useful. When the music stops, their true face shows.
Where are all those who claimed they loved Daddy Lumba so much? If you loved Lumba, why are you torturing the woman he loved and married? If you loved Lumba, why are you dragging his widow through the mud while his body is still cold?
The love some claim to have for Daddy Lumba and Maame Akosua Serwaa has been proven to be fake.
Leave Her Alone To Mourn
Maame Akosua Serwaa Fosua is not fighting for property which does not belong to her. She is not fighting for fame. She is fighting to mourn her husband in dignity. She is fighting against a wave of lies, insults and ungodly ganging-up that no widow should face.
In Ghana, we say “Okunu awu a, na ayie ase.” When a husband dies, the funeral is over, but the pain remains. Our tradition protects widows. It does not persecute them.
Daddy Lumba gave Ghana joy for over 30 years. The least Ghana can give his wife is peace.
Let Maame Akosua Serwaa Fosua grieve. Let her breathe. Let her not drown in the middle of the sea where fake friends have left her.
Because if “Yɛne wo sere kwa” taught us anything, it is this: The people who laugh loudest with you today may be the ones who bury you tomorrow — if you let them.
And for Maame Akosua Serwaa, it is time to stop laughing with those who never meant her well.
Alexander Afriyie, supervising editor, ghanacrimereport.com and ghanatalk.com